Breaking Free


“You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You are not your fucking khakis.” Chuck Palahniuk (Fight Club)

We’ve moved out of the city. We are now country mice.

When we announced we were selling up and moving out there were questions:

Is it for work? A bigger house? To be closer to your parent’s?

The answer to all three is “no”. *puzzled look from everyone*

Well WHYYYYYYY? Why would you leave a big house that you have just finished renovating, why would you leave all your friends and all the shops and all the cafes and civilisation?!! Why why WHY?

In short, because Tyler Durden said a lot of things that are ringing true to me these days (go watch Fight Club again and listen up.)

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to go blow up some credit card company headquarters or anything radical like that, but everyday people talk to themselves… they see themselves as they’d like to be but they don’t have the courage to just run with it.

Well, I’m going to have a good old shot of just running with it and part of who I want to be is a person whose internals may be very complicated, but whose surroundings are not. I really do belive that the things you own end up owning you. And that is not a good thing.

I was reading a blog called Live the Charmed Life and I started checking too many things off the 100 Reasons to Uncomplicate Your Life list. I knew it was time to take some radical action. Time to take a chance.

We aren’t building a bigger house, and this is a conscious decision. If stuff doesn’t fit in the new house then we are saying goodbye to it.

We are cutting out the crap and going to get down to the core of what really makes us happy. Uncomplicated.

Oh, I hear you all laughing. Especially all those beautiful souls who helped us pack and move out of Melbourne and into our temporary rental. Yeah, I know. We have a lot of crap. But that is exactly the point. This first year in the country is going to be a year of shedding. Trimming down our two lifetime’s collection of stuff.

Where do we draw the line? I don’t really know, it is a work in progress.

I’ve been doing some inspirational reading to help me along the way. Louisa Deasey got rid of all her stuff and moved into a Mazda with a guy she’d known a few weeks. Her book chronicles time travelling Australia’s vast red dirt with a comedian while working as a freelance writer. Her book speaks of her senses awakening to all that was really around her once all the material obstacles were taken away.

I’m not saying that we are going that far, by any means. We are using Dave Bruno’s 100 thing challenge as a bit of a guide.  Reading a lot of the comments people have left on his blog are inspiring and food for thought.

Lot’s of issues are raised- what about family heirlooms? Items with real sentimental value? I’ll cross those bridges when I get to them.

I guess what it really comes down to is we come into this world with nothing but love, and we leave in the same way.  There is a lot of stuff collecting in the middle. I think there should be just more love and laughter and that we have a better chance of that if we are less worried about we have or don’t have.

Work in progress, you can count on that.

4 responses »

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  3. I read your post, and it could be me talking to myself! We are in the planning stages of doing exactly the same, and for me for very similar reasons. Declutter minds and lives, get back to dedicating time to each other not cleaning all the ‘stuff’, back to getting real. thanks for sharing.

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